2. Tenuous Relationships

Posted: February 18, 2009 in Uncategorized

The best way will be to avoid each other without appearing to do so — or if we jostle, at any rate not to bite.

Byron, Lord on Love Ended
Quote from Quotations Book

This quote came home to me as I discussed with Karen (fictitious name) the possibilities of sharing her personal story through the FathersFootprints’ literary effort, Daddy, am I Pretty?

Karen, appears to be extremely disgruntled with Black men these days.  I am puzzled by this given that she is, by most standards, a very successful Black woman.  She attributes her zest and zeal for achievement to her mother and grandmother.  Karen, the product of meager beginnings, has grown to be a Vice President in a fast-growing corporation.

When I approach people about the project I make it a point to communicate that we are all who- and what- we are – due to who and what we had, or did not have.  Nevertheless, her reluctance to commit to this project dominated the discussion.

Karen’s Father/Daughter story started with a fairy-tale begining yet resulted in a night-marish ending.  Although she confesses her love and foregiveness to him, she is quick to remind me (and herself for that matter) she is far from the little girl who had her world crushed by the man who was supposed to cherish and cover her.

As this project continues to develop, I’m intrigued to know how the next generation will be shaped by past transgressions.



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