39. Is my parenting in vain?

Posted: August 9, 2009 in Christianity, Education, parenting
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Clark SistersIn 1985, a Detroit-based gospel recording group called the Clark Sisters penned and recorded an album entitled “Is my living in vain.”  In essence, they were asking the question whether or not our efforts to live right, walk right and pray right – were yet futile.  In other words, have I really accomplished all that God has required of me?  I’d like to add yet another line to the Clark Sisters’ song: Is my parenting in vain?

Recent discussion with parents who, like me, have teenage children attending high school have confirmed that our kids face far different challenges than when we attended school in the 70’s and 80’s.  Increased youth violence, teen-pregnancy, drugs, depression and overall identity crisis issues are but a few of the challenges our teens are faced with during their daily school attendance.

I am convinced that our technological advances are part of the blame.  Our teens are using their ipods to rock: “I’m going in” byboy_and_girl_tm Drake and Lil Wayne; “1,000 stacks” by Nelly and Diddy; and; “Trick’n” by Mullage ft. T-Pain.  They’re using their video game systems to play: Grand Theft Auto; Final Fantasy; and Halo 2.   Finally, they’ve become addicted to their laptops, logging on to MySpace, YouTube, and yes, Facebook websites.

Keep in mind that the above can also serve as distractions to adults, but for the kids, these tech toys seem to have shaped their personalities, character and sapped their already lethargic tendencies.

My teens are no different and have delved into each of the above, and for that reason I restate my question: “Is my parenting in vain?”  I’m not sure that through my so-called success that I have appropriately and adequately, as the bible says, “Trained up a child in the way they should go…”

Earlier today Pastor Purvis delivered a powerful message that touched on various aspects of this blog as well as a sermon I am currently preparing.  He challenged us to simply ‘pray’ for our kids as they attempt to obtain academic achievement in a social and chaotic melting-pot.


As a father (and a grandfather), I am concerned for my teens and my adult children as well.  I am concerned for their health and their future.  I am concerned about them being a productive part of society as well as a champion for God’s kingdom.

As I conclude this blog I want to quote Solomon Kinloch of Triumph Church, “Heaven and Earth will pass away, but the only thing that’s going to last what Jesus you put in ‘them children.”  Not dissimilar from our armed forces serving in Iraq, our children go to battle every time the school bell rings.  As we usher them off to the bus stop with new clothes and school supplies, let’s make sure they take Jesus with them. 

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D’s 2 cents,

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  1. Damon Green says:

    I feel parenting is a job that never ends. In some cases we take it to the grave. My Dad until his untimely death provided me his wisdom and knowledge. There were some of the things I battled him on only to find out later in life he was right. That is something our kids will have to learn. The things are parents try to teach us are reasonable. We are just to stupid to realize it until its to late.

  2. Kim T. says:

    Yes Damon, it is a challenge. At some point our youth, like us, must live with the consequences of their decisions. After we’ve done our job the rest is up to them. Kim T.

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