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The other day, while making one of my quick scans through Facebook, my attention was drawn to commonly seen message in the right column on the main page.  The right column typically serves as a reminder of birthdays, pokes, people you may know and finally, friends (a loosely used term on FB but that’s another blog for another day) or acquaintances to reconnect with – as if to suggest, you haven’t visited their page in a while.  On this particular occasion, the profile picture of a late friend appeared under the message, “reconnect with Jan” (real name intentionally withheld).

My thoughts shifted to myself and the legacy (or lack thereof), that I may leave behind once my existence is no longer physical.  How will I be remembered?  Because Facebook, Twitter, Myspace or even my Yahoo account will not know that I’ll no longer be logging on; what will come to mind when friend, family, strangers see my name or a profile picture of an individual who has passed this earthly existence? 

The litany and laundry list of responses to those questions are sure to vary person-to-person.  To some I’ve been a confidant – to others a broadcaster.  To some, a minister – to others an enemy.  To some, a source of employment, security and financial viability – to others a mere liability.  To some a facilitator of dreams – to others, a worse nightmare.

The totality of who I am and the life I’ve lived cannot be contained in a mere blog.  The reality of the life I’ve chosen, or the life that has chosen me bears the question as uttered by the famous gospel recording group, The Clark Sisters, “Is my living in vain?”

When the sun sets on my earthly existence I am simply hopeful that I’m remembered as someone who tried to help somebody, everyday. The funny thing about legacies is that we’ll never be around to witness them.

I close this blog with a quote from Evangelist Billy Graham: “Our days are numbered. One of the primary goals in our lives should be to prepare for our last day. The legacy we leave is not just in our possessions, but in the quality of our lives. What preparations should we be making now? The greatest waste in all of our earth, which cannot be recycled or reclaimed, is our waste of the time that God has given us each day.”

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Clark SistersIn 1985, a Detroit-based gospel recording group called the Clark Sisters penned and recorded an album entitled “Is my living in vain.”  In essence, they were asking the question whether or not our efforts to live right, walk right and pray right – were yet futile.  In other words, have I really accomplished all that God has required of me?  I’d like to add yet another line to the Clark Sisters’ song: Is my parenting in vain?

Recent discussion with parents who, like me, have teenage children attending high school have confirmed that our kids face far different challenges than when we attended school in the 70’s and 80’s.  Increased youth violence, teen-pregnancy, drugs, depression and overall identity crisis issues are but a few of the challenges our teens are faced with during their daily school attendance.

I am convinced that our technological advances are part of the blame.  Our teens are using their ipods to rock: “I’m going in” byboy_and_girl_tm Drake and Lil Wayne; “1,000 stacks” by Nelly and Diddy; and; “Trick’n” by Mullage ft. T-Pain.  They’re using their video game systems to play: Grand Theft Auto; Final Fantasy; and Halo 2.   Finally, they’ve become addicted to their laptops, logging on to MySpace, YouTube, and yes, Facebook websites.

Keep in mind that the above can also serve as distractions to adults, but for the kids, these tech toys seem to have shaped their personalities, character and sapped their already lethargic tendencies.

My teens are no different and have delved into each of the above, and for that reason I restate my question: “Is my parenting in vain?”  I’m not sure that through my so-called success that I have appropriately and adequately, as the bible says, “Trained up a child in the way they should go…”

Earlier today Pastor Purvis delivered a powerful message that touched on various aspects of this blog as well as a sermon I am currently preparing.  He challenged us to simply ‘pray’ for our kids as they attempt to obtain academic achievement in a social and chaotic melting-pot.


As a father (and a grandfather), I am concerned for my teens and my adult children as well.  I am concerned for their health and their future.  I am concerned about them being a productive part of society as well as a champion for God’s kingdom.

As I conclude this blog I want to quote Solomon Kinloch of Triumph Church, “Heaven and Earth will pass away, but the only thing that’s going to last what Jesus you put in ‘them children.”  Not dissimilar from our armed forces serving in Iraq, our children go to battle every time the school bell rings.  As we usher them off to the bus stop with new clothes and school supplies, let’s make sure they take Jesus with them. 

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